{"id":9841,"date":"2025-10-07T11:42:52","date_gmt":"2025-10-07T11:42:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.targeticon.com\/en-coaching\/articles\/sesim-geliyor-mu\/"},"modified":"2025-10-22T22:46:02","modified_gmt":"2025-10-22T22:46:02","slug":"sesim-geliyor-mu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/elifnesibe.com\/tr\/sesim-geliyor-mu\/","title":{"rendered":"Sesim Geliyor Mu?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Bug\u00fcn insan\u0131n en yeg\u00e2ne derdi, anla\u015f\u0131lmamak. Kulaklarla de\u011fil de y\u00fcrekle i\u015fitilmemek. H\u00e2lbuki ileti\u015fim, sesin i\u015fitilmesinden daha \u00e7ok s\u00f6z\u00fcn de\u011fer g\u00f6rmesinde hayat buluyor. <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n

Can Kazaz\u2019\u0131n Kendi H\u00e2limde par\u00e7as\u0131nda, en me\u015fhur ileti\u015fim \u00f6zr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn \u00f6zetini buldum: \u201cDuymaz sa\u011f\u0131r, uydur ba\u011f\u0131r!\u201d Bu d\u00f6rt kelime, i\u015fitmeyi istemedi\u011fimizde nas\u0131l da kolayca sa\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131 tercih etti\u011fimizi k\u0131sa ve \u00f6z bir bi\u00e7imde anlat\u0131yor. Ya da bo\u011faz\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 patlat\u0131rcas\u0131na konu\u015ftu\u011fumuzu zannederken; asl\u0131nda sesimizi kendimize bile duyuramad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131. Di\u011ferleri taraf\u0131ndan i\u015fitilmek i\u00e7in daha y\u00fcksek sesle ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011f\u0131rl\u0131kla su\u00e7larken kendine yabanc\u0131la\u015fan garipli\u011fimizi. M\u00fccadele ediyorum derken, mecalsiz kal\u0131p oturdu\u011fumuz yerden kalkamay\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131. Alametifarikam\u0131z olan idealizmi, s\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 bir dinginli\u011fe tercih edi\u015fimizi. \u201cD\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f olsam kald\u0131r\u0131rlard\u0131; demek ki d\u00fc\u015fmemi\u015fim.\u201d c\u00fcmlelerinde kendini bulan terk edili\u015fimizi. Dost kelimesinin anlam\u0131n\u0131 hem madden hem de manen kaybederken, dost bildiklerimizin cenaze namaz\u0131n\u0131 bile k\u0131lmak istemeyi\u015fimizi. G\u00fcvenli ba\u011fland\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131zdan bile g\u00fcvensizlikle kopabildi\u011fimizi. B\u00fcy\u00fck bir kalabal\u0131\u011fa koro h\u00e2linde \u015fark\u0131 s\u00f6yledi\u011fimizi san\u0131rken yanan \u0131\u015f\u0131klarla sahnede yapayaln\u0131z ve mikrofonsuz oldu\u011fumuzu fark edi\u015fimizi. Konu\u015fsak da anla\u015f\u0131lamayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ortamlarda, kelimelerimizi birer birer yutu\u015fumuzu. <\/p>\n\n

Duyman\u0131n \u00d6tesinde \u201cDuyabilmek\u201d<\/h2>\n\n

Ke\u015fke i\u015fitmek, kaynakla al\u0131c\u0131 aras\u0131ndaki mesafe ile do\u011fru orant\u0131l\u0131 olsayd\u0131. Kayna\u011f\u0131n ses kalitesine, mikrofonun \u00f6zelli\u011fine, al\u0131c\u0131n\u0131n titre\u015fim kabiliyetine ba\u011fl\u0131 olmasayd\u0131 duyabilme ve duyurabilme potansiyelimiz. O zaman bu kadar ac\u0131tmazd\u0131 y\u00fcre\u011fimizi bu teknik detaylar. Egolar\u0131n c\u0131z\u0131rt\u0131s\u0131na kurban gitmezdi g\u00fczelim s\u00f6zler, \u015fark\u0131lar. Ya da mikrofonlar \u00e7\u0131n \u00e7\u0131n \u00e7\u0131nlamazd\u0131 \u201cHay\u0131r ben bu s\u00f6zlere, tav\u0131rlara arac\u0131 olmak istemiyorum.\u201d dercesine. \u0130\u015fittirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmadan konu\u015fmay\u0131, duymamacas\u0131na dinlemeyi akl\u0131m\u0131zdan bile ge\u00e7irmezdik. Suyun \u015f\u0131r\u0131lt\u0131s\u0131 kadar rahatlat\u0131c\u0131, r\u00fczg\u00e2r\u0131n u\u011fultusu kadar \u00fcrpertici olabilmeyi becerebilseydik; ba\u011f\u0131rmadan konu\u015fan Rabb\u2019in, dayatmadan anlatan Res\u00fbl-i Ekrem\u2019in inceli\u011fini kavrayabilseydik; \u201ckulaklar\u0131 var duymazlar\u201d g\u00fcruhunun say\u0131ca \u00e7oklu\u011fu korkutmazd\u0131 bizi. <\/p>\n\n

Anla\u015f\u0131lman\u0131n ve Empatinin G\u00fcc\u00fc<\/h2>\n\n

O zaman, \u201c\u0130\u015fittik ve itaat ettik.\u201d t\u0131ls\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fcc\u00fcyle sesimiz yerine, s\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc y\u00fckseltirdik. Ya\u015famak, yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ikramiyesi olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131 belki de. Kendi kendine konu\u015fman\u0131n delilik de\u011fil, \u00e7aresizlik oldu\u011funu bilmezdik hi\u00e7. Dondurulmu\u015f kalplere his ak\u0131tmaya \u00e7abalamak yerine, en manal\u0131 c\u00fcmlelerimize duvarlar\u0131n ses vermesini beklemezdik. Dinlenmedik\u00e7e susmazd\u0131k i\u00e7imize. Sustuk\u00e7a kabarmazd\u0131 c\u00fcmlelerimiz bir yanarda\u011f gibi y\u00fcre\u011fimizde. \u201c\u015eefkatli sesler i\u015fitilmiyor nas\u0131lsa!\u201d deyip merhametsizce davranmaz, yabanc\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir tonda buyurmazd\u0131k. Biriktirdiklerimizi konu\u015faca\u011f\u0131z diye, dinlemeyi unutmazd\u0131k. <\/p>\n\n

K\u0131sacas\u0131, insan kal\u0131rd\u0131k. \u0130\u00e7inde bulundu\u011fumuz her ili\u015fki format\u0131nda diyalo\u011fun hakk\u0131n\u0131 verirdik. \u0130leti\u015fimde, kulak-ak\u0131l-dil eksenine kalbimizi de eklerdik. O da yetmez, Peygamber Efendimiz gibi g\u00f6zlerinin i\u00e7ine bakard\u0131k muhatab\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n. Kalpten kalbe giden g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyen yollar\u0131, b\u00f6ylece a\u015fik\u00e2r ederdik. Anla\u015f\u0131labilmenin nas\u0131l \u00f6zel bir nimet oldu\u011funu idrak ederdik. Bu hazz\u0131, ba\u015fkalar\u0131na da ya\u015fatabilmek i\u00e7in empati yetene\u011fimizi co\u015ftururduk. Anla\u015fmaktan daha m\u00fchim bir i\u015fte\u015f fiil olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, t\u00fcm eylemlerin, \u00f6zde ondan ge\u00e7ti\u011fini kabullenirdik. Ve i\u015fte\u015fli\u011fin, anla\u015f\u0131lman\u0131n en \u00e7ok \u00e2\u015f\u0131klara yak\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da. Bu y\u00fczden a\u015fk\u0131n sesli harflerini \u00e7o\u011faltmak yerine, iki sessiz harfin kafiyesindeki uyum olurduk bile isteye. <\/p>\n\n

T\u0131kal\u0131 Kulaklar\u0131n \u0130lac\u0131 S\u00fck\u00fbnet Olabilir Mi?<\/h2>\n\n

E\u015f sesli olamasak da sevdice\u011fimizle, e\u015f anlaml\u0131 olmaya gayret ederdik. Farkl\u0131 harflerle ayn\u0131 ama\u00e7 i\u00e7in yola \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 hat\u0131rlard\u0131k \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma anlar\u0131m\u0131zda. Desibel aral\u0131\u011f\u0131 olmazd\u0131 kulaklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n sevdi\u011fimize kar\u015f\u0131. Her ne tonda ve bi\u00e7imde s\u00f6ylenirse s\u00f6ylensin, dediklerimiz bir kulaktan girip \u00f6teki kulaktan jet h\u0131z\u0131yla \u00e7\u0131kmazd\u0131. Ya da \u00f6nyarg\u0131 ve ge\u00e7mi\u015f ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131n genellemeleriyle z\u0131t anlamlar y\u00fcklemezdik i\u015fittiklerimize. Ruhlar\u0131m\u0131zla duyard\u0131k birbirimizi, s\u00f6zlere hacet kalmazd\u0131. Altyaz\u0131lar, a\u00e7\u0131klama c\u00fcmleleri, inand\u0131rmak i\u00e7in edilen yeminler yer almazd\u0131 l\u00fcgatimizde. S\u00f6z, yerini g\u00f6ze b\u0131rak\u0131p da \u201ckal\u201d, \u201ch\u00e2l\u201de d\u00f6n\u00fcnce, \u201ccezm\u201ddeki \u201ckalkale\u201dnin heybeti daha iyi anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. De\u011fil mi ki kalkale, harfin s\u00fck\u00fbna ula\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 anda asl\u0131nda daha fazla ses bulmas\u0131, vurguyu \u00fczerinde toplamas\u0131yd\u0131; t\u0131kal\u0131 kulaklar\u0131n ilac\u0131, belki de o s\u00fck\u00fbnetteki yank\u0131yd\u0131. <\/p>\n\n

Y\u00fcrekle \u0130\u015fitebilmek<\/h2>\n\n

Yeter ki i\u015fitmek; y\u00fcre\u011fiyle duymak, kulaklar\u0131n\u0131n hakk\u0131n\u0131 vermek istesin insan, kayna\u011f\u0131yla aras\u0131ndaki t\u00fcm engelleri ortadan kald\u0131rmak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. Nas\u0131l Rabbi, kullar\u0131yla bamba\u015fka yollarla ileti\u015fim kuruyor; onlara g\u00f6zleriyle, kulaklar\u0131yla, ak\u0131llar\u0131yla, kalpleriyle t\u00fcrl\u00fc bi\u00e7imde mesaj\u0131n\u0131 iletiyor; varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hat\u0131rlat\u0131yor\u2026 Hem al\u0131c\u0131 hem verici konumundaki insan\u0131n da ileti\u015fimde tek bir alternatifi yok. Yola \u00e7\u0131karken besmeleyi hangi makamda \u00e7ekti\u011fi \u00f6nemli sadece. Zira o ne konu\u015fuyor ne i\u015fitiyor. Olsa olsa konu\u015fturuluyor ve i\u015fittiriliyor! <\/p>\n\n

Can You Hear My Voice?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n

Today, the most fundamental struggle of humanity is not being understood<\/strong>. It\u2019s not being heard with the heart, but only with the ears. Yet, true communication finds its meaning not just in hearing a sound, but in valuing the words spoken. <\/p>\n\n

In Can Kazaz\u2019s song Kendi H\u00e2limde<\/em>, I found a summary of our most common communication failure:\u201cThe deaf won\u2019t hear, just shout and make it up!\u201d<\/strong>These four words concisely and clearly express how we so easily choose deafness when we don\u2019t want to listen. Or how, when we think we\u2019re speaking loudly and clearly, we can\u2019t even make ourselves heard\u2014not even to ourselves<\/strong>. It\u2019s the shouting we do just to be heard by others.The strangeness of becoming alien to ourselves while accusing others of being deaf.Claiming we\u2019re fighting while being too exhausted to even stand.Trading in our hallmark idealism for a dull sense of calm.The feeling of abandonment found in the words, \u201cIf I had truly fallen, they would\u2019ve helped me up\u2014so I guess I never fell.\u201d<\/em>Losing the meaning of the word \u201cfriend\u201d both materially and spiritually, and not even wanting to attend the funeral prayer of those we once called friends.How even with those we are securely attached to, we can part with deep mistrust.Realizing that while we think we\u2019re singing in chorus to a crowd, we\u2019re actually alone on stage, under bright lights, without a microphone.In spaces where we know we won\u2019t be understood no matter what we say, we swallow our words one by one.<\/p>\n\n

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Hearing Beyond Sound: \u201cTo Be Able to Hear\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n

If only hearing were directly proportional to the distance between the source and the receiver\u2026If only our potential to hear and to be heard didn\u2019t depend on the quality of the source, the properties of the microphone, or the receiver\u2019s sensitivity to vibrations. Then these technical details wouldn\u2019t hurt so much.Beautiful words and songs wouldn\u2019t be lost to the static of egos.Microphones wouldn\u2019t screech as if to say, \u201cI don\u2019t want to carry these words or attitudes.\u201dWe\u2019d never even think of speaking without trying to make ourselves heard, or listening without truly wanting to hear. <\/p>\n\n

If only we could be as soothing as the trickle of water and as stirring as the whisper of the wind…If only we could grasp the subtlety of a Lord who speaks without shouting, of a Prophet who explains without forcing…We wouldn’t be afraid of how many people belong to the group who “have ears but do not hear.”<\/p>\n\n

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The Power of Being Understood and of Empathy<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n

Then, empowered by the magic of the phrase \u201cWe hear and we obey,\u201d<\/em>we\u2019d raise not our voice, but our words<\/strong>.Perhaps life would no longer be a consolation prize for our loneliness.We\u2019d never mistake talking to ourselves for madness\u2014it would simply be recognized as helplessness.Instead of trying to pour feelings into frozen hearts, we wouldn\u2019t wait for the walls to echo back our most meaningful sentences.We wouldn\u2019t fall silent just because we weren\u2019t being listened to.And when we did fall silent, our words wouldn\u2019t build up like a volcano in our hearts.We wouldn\u2019t act mercilessly or speak in alienated tones just because we thought, \u201cNo one hears kind voices anyway.\u201d<\/em>We wouldn\u2019t forget how to listen just because we\u2019ve saved up so many things to say.<\/p>\n\n

In short, we would remain human<\/strong>.We would do justice to dialogue in every form of relationship we\u2019re in.In communication, we\u2019d add our hearts to the ear-mind-tongue axis.And more than that\u2014we\u2019d look directly into the eyes of the person we\u2019re speaking to, just like the Prophet did.In doing so, we\u2019d make visible the hidden paths that run from heart to heart.We\u2019d understand what a rare and beautiful blessing it is to be truly understood.To let others feel that same joy, we\u2019d awaken our capacity for empathy.We\u2019d accept that no reciprocal action is more important than understanding<\/strong>\u2014that all other acts are rooted in it.And that reciprocity, the essence of mutual understanding, suits lovers most of all.So rather than increasing the vowels of love, we\u2019d choose to be the harmony of two consonants in rhyme.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n

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Can Stillness Be the Cure for Deaf Ears?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n

Even if we couldn\u2019t be \u201chomophones\u201d with our beloved, we\u2019d strive to be \u201csynonyms.\u201dIn times of conflict, we\u2019d remember that we started this journey with different letters but the same purpose.Our ears wouldn\u2019t have a decibel limit when it came to our loved ones.Whatever the tone or form, our words wouldn\u2019t go in one ear and fly out the other.And we wouldn\u2019t attach opposite meanings to what we hear, distorted by prejudice or past experiences.We\u2019d hear each other with our souls<\/strong>, leaving no need for words.No subtitles, no explanatory phrases, no oaths to prove our sincerity would exist in our dictionary.<\/p>\n\n

When words give way to gaze, when speech turns into state\u2014then the true power of qalqala<\/em> in jazm<\/em> (Arabic phonetic rules) becomes apparent.Isn\u2019t qalqala<\/strong> the moment when a letter, upon reaching silence, resonates more deeply and draws the emphasis to itself?Maybe the cure for deaf ears<\/strong> lies in the echo within that silence.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n

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To Hear With the Heart<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n

If only humans truly desired to hear with their hearts, to give their ears their due\u2014it would be possible to remove all the barriers between themselves and the source.<\/p>\n\n

Just as the Creator communicates with His creation in many different ways\u2014sending messages through eyes, ears, minds, and hearts\u2014reminding them of His presence\u2026So too, for us who are both receivers and transmitters, there is not just one<\/strong> path for communication.<\/p>\n\n

The only thing that matters is in what spiritual state we begin our journey<\/strong>\u2014just like reciting Basmala<\/em> in a chosen tone.Because it is not us who truly speak or hear.At best, we are made to speak and made to hear<\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Bug\u00fcn insan\u0131n en yeg\u00e2ne derdi, anla\u015f\u0131lmamak. Kulaklarla de\u011fil de y\u00fcrekle i\u015fitilmemek. H\u00e2lbuki ileti\u015fim, sesin i\u015fitilmesinden daha \u00e7ok s\u00f6z\u00fcn de\u011fer g\u00f6rmesinde hayat buluyor. Can Kazaz\u2019\u0131n Kendi H\u00e2limde par\u00e7as\u0131nda, en me\u015fhur ileti\u015fim \u00f6zr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn \u00f6zetini buldum: \u201cDuymaz sa\u011f\u0131r, uydur ba\u011f\u0131r!\u201d Bu d\u00f6rt kelime, i\u015fitmeyi istemedi\u011fimizde nas\u0131l da kolayca sa\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131 tercih etti\u011fimizi k\u0131sa ve \u00f6z bir bi\u00e7imde anlat\u0131yor. Ya […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9841","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/elifnesibe.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9841","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/elifnesibe.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/elifnesibe.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elifnesibe.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elifnesibe.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9841"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/elifnesibe.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9841\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9842,"href":"https:\/\/elifnesibe.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9841\/revisions\/9842"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/elifnesibe.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9841"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elifnesibe.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9841"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elifnesibe.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9841"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}